Margaret Claire Pisani died peacefully May 12, 2019, surrounded by her family.

She is survived by her husband, Edwin; daughters, Genevieve and Emilia; son-in-law, Chris; and granddaughter, Vivian Margaret.

Margy was born Dec. 9, 1952, in Brookhaven, N.Y., and grew up in Patchogue and Jamesport, N.Y.

She graduated from The College of New Rochelle with a BA in studio art. She moved to Manhattan after college and married Ed in 1980. They moved to Croton-on-Hudson, N.Y., in 1984, where they raised their daughters before relocating to Margy’s dream home on the Peconic Bay in Laurel, N.Y.

A talented artist who successfully petitioned her high school to let girls take mechanical drawing and hand-illustrated her daughters’ paper lunch bags every day, Margy worked as a graphic designer before becoming a stay-at-home mom.

She was a gifted storyteller with a wild imagination, a quick wit and a passion for history and literature (Genny and Emilia grew up listening to her read T.S. Eliot and Dickens at bedtime). She could captivate a room with her vibrant personality, often breaking into a convincing Russian or Irish accent, and served as a confidante and counselor to many. She could also repair a carburetor, fold a fitted sheet, recite the Gettysburg Address from memory and soothe any crying baby. Her sense of direction was legendary.

Margy loved sailing, traveling the world with her beloved Ed, spending time at her house on the bay with friends and family, and speaking her mind about politics. Above all, she was a loyal, generous, funny and loving friend, wife, mom and aunt, and the world’s very best grandma.

The family will host a celebration of Margy’s life Friday, June 7, from noon to 4 p.m. at Tavern on the Green, 67th Street and Central Park West, New York, NY 10023.

In lieu of flowers, please send donations to the ACLU (aclu.org) or to support the breast cancer research of Dr. Linda Vahdat at Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center (mskcc.convio.net/goto/breastcancerresearch).

Checks, made payable to Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center, should be mailed to: Attn: Emily Carter, Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center, Office of Development, P.O. Box 27106, New York, NY 10087. Please indicate on the check that the gift is in memory of Margy Pisani, to support the research of Dr. Linda Vahdat.

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Anders E. Kritsberg of Southold died May 24. He was 59.

Visitors will be received Tuesday, May 28, from 4 to 7 p.m. at DeFriest-Grattan Funeral Home in Southold. A prayer service will take place during visitation, officiated by Reverend Garrett Johnson.

Funeral services will take place Saturday, June 8, at 11 a.m. at St. Peter’s Lutheran Church in Greenport.

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Ralph Louis Panella of Southold, N.Y., died May 14, 2019, at Stony Brook Hospital with his wife and two daughters at his side. He was 83 years old.

Ralph was born in the Bronx, N.Y. He was a seasonal Southold resident since 1972 and permanent resident since 2004, moving from Yonkers, N.Y.

He graduated from Theodore Roosevelt High School in the Bronx and earned a B.S. degree from Pace University in New York City.

He was proud of his Bronx Italian heritage. You could often find him correcting your pronunciation of “espresso” while sipping on his specially ordered beans from Arthur Avenue in the Bronx.

Although he had been employed by IBM as an accountant, his joyful “work” was being a Mr. Fix-it, both at home and for family and friends. His face would light up when he could rise to the challenge of fixing something unfixable! Ralph also enjoyed boating and in recent years, remote sailboat racing.

He is survived by his wife of 50 years, Elaine (nee Bergeron) of Bridgehampton; two daughters, Pia (Philip) Donovan and Gina Panella; and grandsons, Jack and Oliver Donovan.

He was preceded in death by his parents, Anthony and Constance (Rocciola) Panella, and his brother, John Panella.

He was a U.S. Army veteran, Fourth Degree Knight of Columbus and a member of the Italian-American Club.

Visitors were received May 19 at DeFriest-Grattan Funeral Home in Southold. The Liturgy of Christian Burial was celebrated May 20 at Saint Patrick R.C. Church in Southold — where he was a parishioner — officiated by Father John Barrett. Interment followed at the church cemetery.

Memorial donations may be made to Wounded Warriors or Disabled American Veterans.

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Charles J. Hoffmann of Sayville, N.Y., and former 50-year resident of Shelter Island, died May 23, 2019. He was 93 years old.

He was born April 23, 1926, in New York City to Margaret (Doherty) and Karl Hoffmann.

On June 28, 1953, he married the love of his life, Caroline Anderson, in West Babylon, N.Y., and together they had three children.

Charles served in the United States Naval Reserve during World War II from 1944 to 1946 as a Seaman First Class, where he attained the American Theatre Medal, Asiatic Pacific Medal, European Theatre Medal and Victory Medal.

He worked for LILCO in Riverhead, N.Y., for 40 years as a lineman and dispatcher, retiring in 1986. He was also a member of the Shelter Island Country Club.

Charles was predeceased by his wife, Caroline Hoffmann, Aug. 20, 2018. He is survived by his three children, George J. Hoffmann of Shelter Island, Charles G. Hoffmann of Rockville Centre, N.Y., and Cinthia Amurao of Ashburn, Va.; eight grandchildren, Joseph J. Hoffmann, Carol-Anne Hoffmann, George W. Hoffmann, Evelyn Willette Hoffmann, Emily Rose King, Martin Parks King, Charlie L. Hoffmann and Anders G. Hoffmann; two great-grandchildren, Janaya James and Claire Caroline Hoffmann; and a sister, Anna Westerlind of Marco Island, Fla.

Interment with U.S. Navy honors will take place at Calverton National Cemetery in the near future.

Memorial donations may be made to the Shelter Island Ambulance Foundation, P.O. Box 547, Shelter Island, NY 11964.

Shelter Island Funeral Home is assisting the family.

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Joseph A. “Joe” Pottgen of Southold passed Wednesday, May 29, 2019. He was 80 years old.

He was born Feb. 10, 1939, in Norwalk, Conn., to Olga (Soltis) and Joseph Pottgen.

Joe was the beloved husband of Jackie; the loving father of Wayne (Mary-Anne), William (Jill) and Cynthia; a devoted step-father to Vincent (Margaret), Joseph and the late Melissa Carvelli. He was cherished by his eight grandchildren Elaina, Lianna, Sean, Nicole, Samantha, Jason, Reese and Laurel.

He proudly served in the U.S. Navy from 1958 to 1962, worked for Allstate Insurance, then transitioned to the real estate business for the past 42 years.

Joe will be remembered for his generosity, spirit, kindness and zest for life which touched so many. His foremost passion was his family, love of fishing, the great outdoors, fine dining, crossword puzzles and Judge Judy.

Visitors will be received Thursday, June 6, from 3 to 7 p.m. at DeFriest-Grattan Funeral Home in Southold.

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Thomas P. Brady of Southold died  May 31. He was 87.

Visitors were received June 2 at DeFriest-Grattan Funeral Home in Southold. The Liturgy of Christian Burial will be celebrated Monday, June 3, at 10 a.m. at Saint Patrick’s R.C. Church in Southold, officiated by Father John Barrett.

Interment with U.S. Navy honors will take place at Long Island National Cemetery.

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Rosina Suglia of Morristown, N.J., formerly of Mattituck, died May 31. She was 92.

Rosina was a longtime clerk at the Southold Town tax receiver’s office.

Visitors will be received Tuesday, June 4, from 3 to 7 p.m. at DeFriest-Grattan Funeral Home in Mattituck. The Liturgy of Christian Burial will be celebrated Wednesday, June 5, at 10 a.m. at Our Lady of Good Counsel R.C. Church in Mattituck, officiated by Monsignor Joseph W. Staudt. Interment will follow at Sacred Heart R.C. Cemetery in Cutchogue.

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George H. Gray of Rochester, N.Y., passed away peacefully at home Dec. 2, 2018, surrounded by his loving family.

He is survived by his wife, Patricia Latham Gray; his son, Peter Lowell Gray; his granddaughter, Georgina Usaphea Gray; siblings Rita, Rick and Wendy of Buffalo, N.Y., Cindy Reilly of Easton, Pa.; and cousins, nieces and a nephew.

George graduated from Edison Technical High School in Buffalo in 1968, from Hamilton College in 1972 and Albany Law School in 1976.

George became well known in Rochester for estate planning and supplemental needs trusts for families of children with disabilities. George was an active member of Third Presbyterian Church and an executive board member of Starbridge, Rochester Area Interfaith Hospitality Network and the Presbytery of Genesee Valley. George will be remembered for his dry sense of humor and warm smile.

A graveside service for George will be held Saturday, June 15, 2019, at 9:30 a.m. at Orient Point (Latham) Cemetery in Orient, N.Y.

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Rosina Suglia of Morristown, N.J., a former 50-year resident of Mattituck, died May 31. She was 92.

She was born March 24, 1927, in Brooklyn, N.Y., to Angela (Porti) and Jack Raia. In August 1951, she married the love of her life, Vito J. Suglia, and together they had two children.

Rosina was a devoted mother and grandmother to her children and grandchildren. She worked at the Southold Town Tax Office for over 20 years, retiring when she was 89 years old. She was also a 50-year member of Sacred Heart Parish, volunteering as a Eucharistic minister for many years. As a self-proclaimed “big kid,” her grandchildren loved playing with her and she never got bored or tired playing games with them. She was stubbornly independent and she remained that way until the end. She enjoyed doing puzzles, reading and eating dark chocolate.

She was predeceased by her husband, Vito; her parents Jack and Angela; her sister, Mary; and her sisters-in-law, Lena and Rose. She is survived by her children Maria Mobus, her husband Brad and their children Jessica and Jacqueline of Morristown, and Dorinna Ruh, her husband Rich and their son Nathaniel of Fort Collins, Colo.; her sister Patricia Ochs of Selden, N.Y.; and her brother Ben Raia and his wife Kathy of Woodbury, N.Y.; and a number of nieces and nephews.

Visitors will be received Tuesday, June 4, from 3 to 7 p.m. at DeFriest-Grattan Funeral Home in Mattituck. The Liturgy of Christian Burial will be celebrated Wednesday, June 5, at 10 a.m. at Our Lady of Good Counsel R.C. Church in Mattituck, officiated by Monsignor Joseph W. Staudt. Interment will follow at Sacred Heart R.C. Cemetery in Cutchogue.

Memorial donations may be made to Boys Town or Our Lady of Good Counsel R.C. Church.

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Mrs. Jane (Worthington) Flatley, age 91, passed away with family members at her side at her Mattituck home Sunday, June 2.

Jane was born in Laurel in 1928 and lived her whole live on the North Fork, graduating from Mattituck High School in 1945, and going on to study business law and real estate at Suffolk County Community College. Throughout her career, Jane worked as a legal secretary for several law offices, including 20 years at a Cutchogue attorney’s office, and was very active in the Sacred Heart Parish, performing Eucharistic minister services.

Jane was one of three children born to Albert and Agnes (King) Worthington and is predeceased by her sister, Mary Jermusyk, and her brother, Donald Worthington. Jane was also predeceased by her loving husband of 61 years, William Flatley, and leaves a grieving family of daughters Patricia (John) Wittmeier and Therese (Scott) Murrock and sons Martin (Susan) and Thomas (Ellen). In addition, Jane lived to spend time with 10 grandchildren, two great-grandchildren and her extended family members.

Visitors will be received Thursday, June 6, from 3 to 7 p.m. at DeFriest-Grattan Funeral Home in Mattituck. The Liturgy of Christian Burial will be celebrated Friday morning, June 7, at 10 a.m. at Our Lady of Good Counsel R.C. Church in Mattituck, officiated by Monsignor Joseph W. Staudt. Interment will follow at Sacred Heart R.C. Cemetery in Cutchogue.

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Barbara M. Raacke of Mattituck died June 3. She was 84.

The Liturgy of Christian Burial will be celebrated Thursday, June 6, at noon at Our Lady of Ostrabrama R.C. Church in Cutchogue, officiated by Father Mariusz Gorazd.

Interment will follow at Sacred Heart R.C. Cemetery.

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Marie E. Lukert of Southold died at home June 1. She was 89.

The family has chosen to remember Marie’s life privately.

DeFriest-Grattan Funeral Home in Southold is assisting the family.

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Joan E. Tuthill of Mattituck died June 2. She was 83.

Visitors will be received Wednesday, June 5, from 2 to 4 and 7 to 9 p.m. at DeFriest-Grattan Funeral Home in Mattituck.

Funeral services will take place Thursday, June 6, at 10 a.m. at the funeral home, officiated by the Rev. Dr. John Carrick.

Interment will follow at Cutchogue Cemetery.

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Victor Grissino was an extraordinary carpenter and cabinetmaker who worked until the day he passed away.

He is survived by his daughter, Maria Golden; his son, Joseph Grissino; and his two grandsons, Alexander and David Golden, all of whom wish to extend their most sincere thanks to the friends, extended family, neighbors and medical staff whose kindness, patience and generosity of spirit added so much to his life.

Anyone wishing to is invited to make a donation in his name to Greenport Volunteer Fire Department, which was there with care and competence whenever needed: c/o Village of Greenport, 236 Third St., Greenport, NY 11944, Attn: Sylvia.

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Barbara (Betty) R. Koehler Fairburn, age 94, formerly of Mattituck, N.Y. and Deland, Fla., passed away peacefully March 22, at her home in Rockledge, Fla.

Betty was born Sept. 1, 1924, in New York, N.Y. to John and Catherine (Haeger) Ripp.

She married Charles H. Koehler, Jr. Aug. 24, 1947, and their family grew with the addition of a son and daughter. After the passing of Charlie, Betty married Bernard M. Fairburn on Nov. 24, 1984, blending two families with the addition of his daughter and two stepsons.

Betty retired from the Mattituck-Cutchogue School District in 1979 as cafeteria manager. She made her retirement home in Deland to be near her brothers and worked with her sister-in-law in her ceramics shop for a few years.

Upon her marriage to Bernard “Red,” Betty relocated to Florida’s east coast where she volunteered with the Parrish Medical Center Auxiliary until her health no longer permitted. Together, they built a vacation home in the North Carolina mountains which the whole family enjoyed.

Everyone who met her loved her. Betty was a wonderful friend, mom, grandmother and Nana. She was a faithful servant of the Lord and shared her spiritual strength with all. She was a member of Advent Lutheran Church in Mattituck where she sang in the choir and served on the Council. As a member of Trinity Lutheran Church in Titusville, Fla., Betty loved her Bible study group and was a faithful prayer warrior.

Everybody remembers Betty as the best cook, baker and gardener. She also loved to read, work crossword puzzles, quilt and observe nature. Road trips and cruises were some of her favorite vacations.

Betty is survived by her son Charles “Chuck” H. Koehler III (Valerie) of Greeneville, Tenn., daughter Carolyn Menard (Richard) of Wendell, N.C., stepdaughter Pamela S. Fairburn of Rockledge, Fla., brother Jack Cola of Ft. McCoy, Fla., sister Katherine Catapano of Tomball, Texas; grandchildren Justin Koehler, Chad Menard, Brianna Koehler Schwartz, Jesse Menard, Marcy Menard; step-grandchildren Jeffrey Schisler, Denise Schisler, Kimberly Schisler Hunter, Robin Schisler Rainey; great-grandchildren Lila Menard, Dov and Liev Schwartz, Kyle and Ryan Rainey, Clay and Brooke Schisler; and numerous nieces and nephews.

Betty was predeceased by her parents, both husbands, brothers Karl Ripp and Frank Cola, stepsons Donald and James Schisler, stepgrandson Monte Schisler, and great-granddaughter Olivia Mae Menard.

A memorial service will take place at 11 a.m. Saturday, June 29, at Advent Lutheran Church in Mattituck immediately followed by the interment of ashes at New Bethany Cemetery. Memorial donations may be made in memory of Barbara Fairburn to: Advent Lutheran Church, PO Box 105, Mattituck, NY 11952 or Wuesthoff Brevard Hospice & Palliative Care, 661 Eyester Blvd., Rockledge, FL 32955.

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John Christopher Ritter of Hidden Valley Lake, Calif., died May 26 at Santa Rosa Memorial Hospital. He was 55 years old.

John was born in Huntington, N.Y. and raised in Greenport. John graduated from Greenport High School in 1983.

John’s dream of living in a warmer climate became a reality when, in 1990, he moved to Arizona. There he met Todd Metcalf. They were happily married for 15 years. John lived life to the fullest. He loved nature and traveling.

John was a very kind, loving and generous soul. His positive spirit touched more people than he knew. He will be greatly missed by all who knew him.

John was preceded in death by his parents, Donald and Arlene. He is survived by his siblings Michael, Donald, Virginia, Jackie, Kristine, Beth, Matthew and James.

A memorial in Hidden Valley Lake is planned for Saturday, Aug. 17.

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Mary E. “Miz” Thomson of Greenport passed away peacefully June 3, 2019, at the age of 81.

She was born in Brooklyn Nov. 24, 1937, to Eleanor (Ronnenberg) and Martin Heffernan.

She graduated from Marymount College and taught art in the New York City public school system for 19 years.

In 1970 she married her beloved husband, Jay, and they subsequently moved to Greenport, where they opened The Furniture Store antique shop on Front Street.

She will be missed by all who knew her and her ability to bring people together as a fun and gracious hostess. Miz had the ability to light up a room with her personality and fun-loving spirit and had a special place in her heart for animals of all kinds. She was a loyal member of St. Agnes R.C. Church in Greenport and frequently volunteered services to John’s Place.

Miz is survived by her husband, Jay; her brother, Paul Heffernan (Jana) of Greenport; and her niece, Heather McDermott (Matthew) of Naples, Fla.

Visitors will be received at Horton-Mathie Funeral Home in Greenport Thursday, June 6, from 3 to 7 p.m. A funeral Mass will be held at 10 a.m. Friday, June 7, at St. Agnes R.C. Church. A private cremation will follow.

The family has suggested that memorial donations may be made to North Fork Animal Welfare League, P.O. Box 297, Southold, NY 11971.

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Mary Ann Baumgratz of Laurel died May 10. She was 73.

A memorial service will take place Saturday, June 8, at 1 p.m. at Church of the Redeemer in Mattituck, followed by interment at Cutchogue Cemetery.

Coster-Heppner Funeral Home in Cutchogue assisted the family.

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LeRoy A. Paul
A birthday gift

I picked a rose, was pale in hue
Wet green grass, I did walk through
I laid it down upon your stone
You could say … your very own

I spoke of times that you did miss
Some of which were very bliss
I spoke of times I was in need
And my thoughts … that you should heed

I looked around, the sky was grey
Rain again was on its way
Casting silence upon the scene
A tranquil space … was so serene

The wind was still and made me think
If only once, I could blink
And bring the past back into view
The memories then … would all be new

Then I asked you, “How was heaven?”
“It is a place I shall get in?”
“Are they nice and treat you well?”
I spoke out loud … time will tell

I knew your ears were listening to
All that I was telling you
I knew your eyes were there to see
The only visitor … which was me

I never sat, the ground was wet
Was rain or tears, they both had met
I left the rose, your very own
A birthday gift … then I went home.

Ann Paul

In memory of LeRoy A. Paul
June 3, 1923 to 2003

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Antone J. Wysocki Jr. of Cutchogue died June 15 at Eastern Long Island Hospital. He was 74. 

He was born April 18, 1945, to Mary (Bedel) and Antone Wysocki in Greenport. 

Mr. Wysocki married Rosemary Jarzombek and served in the U.S. Marine Corps from 1963 to 1969. He made a career as platform operator for Conico Phillips. 

He enjoyed fishing, hunting and gambling, his family said.

Mr. Wysocki was predeceased by his son, Richard. A. Wysocki in 2018. He is survived by his wife, who resides in Cutchogue; his son J.R. of Cutchogue; and his grandchildren Richard, Matthew and Dillan. 

Visitors will be received Sunday, June 9, from 2 to 4 and 7 to 9 p.m. at Coster-Heppner Funeral Home in Cutchogue. A service will take placae Monday, June 10, at 10 a.m. at the funeral home. Interment will follow at Calverton National Cemetery. 

Memorial donations may be made to a charity of the donor’s choice. 

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